It took me several years to finally figure out that being a wife and mother is an important job. After getting married, I worked for about 2 years, first as a waitress, then I worked as a paper pusher at two different power plants as they were being constructed.
Kisses from Kaydence
When I got pregnant with my first child, my husband and I decided it would be best for me to stay home with her. We were far in debt, but the Lord was gracious and we never missed a payment. I worked as a waitress for a while after she quit breast feeding, working in the evenings while my husband was home so he could care for her.
The culture we live in teaches that women should be working outside the home, bringing in the dough. While there is nothing wrong with a woman who works outside of her home, I believe that God’s intentions for women is to be home with their children when possible. For many, the woman has to work because they have many bills that need to be paid each month. Sometimes these bills are unavoidable, and sometimes they are self induced, financing toys and cars that cannot be enjoyed because the person is too busy working to pay for them.
My husband and I have been there. We have had every toy financed; cars, snowmobiles, four wheelers, campers, etc. We know what it is to be so far in debt that you barely have enough money left over to buy milk. But we now realize how many of those financial burdens were caused because of our own selfish desires, and our disobedience to God’s word.
Proverbs 22:7 says, “The rich rules over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender.” Debt brings slavery. You are enslaved to the lender you borrowed from because you must work until that debt is paid.
Romans 13:8 says, “Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves has fulfilled the law.” As believers, we should not owe anything to anyone.
Hebrews 13:5 says, “Keep your life free from the love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said “I will never leave you nor forsake you.'”
God has a purpose for each person. He has a purpose for the wife and mother, which He tells us in His word. He promises to never leave us nor forsake us, and his promises are true. He does not lie and He is sovereign, therefore, we can trust what He says.
In Titus, Paul gives instructions for what should be taught in the church. He instructs older women to teach younger women in the following areas: love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husband. Notice that one of the instructions is working at home. This doesn’t prohibit a wife from working outside the house; Proverbs 31 speaks of a woman who works outside the home. What Paul means here is that the wife should be the primary person responsible for the work inside the home. She shouldn’t be so busy with responsibilities outside the home that they take all her time and energy that she has none left for her husband, children and household.
My love and I (and Kryspin) in Las Vegas
This is completely foreign to what our society teaches today. They praise women for being outside the home, sending their kids off for someone else to raise, and powering over their husbands. God’s purpose for a wife and mother are so much more than the mundane tasks of washing dishes and folding laundry. It is seeing the smiles of your children’s faces when they wake in the morning, enjoying breakfast with them everyday, seeing the heart of your children (good and bad) and being able to shepherd their little hearts towards Christ. The opportunities to share the gospel with them daily and see them change and grow. The joy and laughter of the kids spinning in circles until they are so dizzy they fall over.
When you are not focused on what society says, and you focus on what the Word of God says, you will come to realize that being busy outside the home is not best. A woman should be busy within her home, loving and helping her husband and serving her family. This is where true contentment lies.
My oldest daughter learning how to be a homemaker