Marriage can be hard. Living with another person, being selfless, and considering someone else in your every decision is tough. It is also a blessing. God can use it to grow, change and mold you to be more like Christ. Jesus is the ultimate example of selflessness. He came to earth, lived a perfect, sinless life, was beaten, hung on a cross and killed, then rose again defeating death so that those who repent and trust in Him will have eternal life. Often in the Bible, the church is referred to as the bride of Christ. Marriage is intended by God to be an example of the relationship between Christ and His church. And so, as a child of God and a wife to my husband, I strive to serve him the same way that Jesus served me.
Here are 5 simple and practical ways that I serve my husband everyday. I pray that they are helpful for you as you seek to honor God in your relationship with your husband.
- Make his breakfast and lunch. Every morning, I rise before my husband and make him breakfast. It’s not fancy, just a breakfast sandwich, but it helps fill his belly and gives him the energy he needs for the morning. I also pack his lunch for work every day. Doing these two things each morning allows him time to read his Bible and talk with God.
- Put his clean clothes away. My husband works hard and I want to make the most of the time I have with him when he is home. It takes me an extra 3 minutes to put his clothes away when I do mine, but it blesses him because he doesn’t have to worry about doing it.
- Have dinner ready when he gets home from work. Like I said before, my husband works hard. When he gets home from work, he is hungry, tired and ready to relax. He really likes it when dinner is ready and he can sit down at the table and enjoy conversation and interaction with the entire family.
- Build him up with words. This is so important ladies. Our husbands need respect from us wives. God told us to submit to our husbands (Ephesians 5:22) because his order is for them to be the head over us (Ephesians 5:23). If we aren’t respectful of them and their God given authority, it makes them miserable. Don’t be the nagging wife in Proverbs 21:9 and Proverbs 21:19. “Better to live in the wilderness than with a nagging and hot tempered wife.” 21:9. “Better to live on the corner of a roof than to share a house with a nagging wife.” 21:19.
- Honor his words and wishes. God gave the husband the role of being head over the wife. He is the leader of our home and will be accountable as such. Even if you don’t agree with what he says or the decision he makes, don’t cut him down in public or in front of the kids. Make a mental note of whatever it is you wanted to talk to him about and then talk to him in private about it, at a different time. Husbands and wives don’t always agree about the way to do things. But, because he is the head, submit to him joyfully and trust that God is directing his choices. Then later, you can discuss and share your thoughts when the timing is right. Your husband will receive your words better and be more likely to consider them when you present them or talk to him at the correct time.
What practical ways do you serve your husband? Let me know in the comments below.